NO ONE ELSE HAS ANY FUCKING BUSINESS TELLING YOU WHAT GENDER YOU ARE!!!

slightlyaggressiveaffirmations:

(unless you ask them, because you’re not sure. then i hope they are helpful)

  

seapeny:

transcynical:

pomeranianprivilege:

shamelesslyunladylike:

whiskey-and-c41:

raindropmermaid:

princess-ugly-zombie:

raindropmermaid:

i just discovered the term ‘black knighting’ courtesy of reddit and i want to vomit :) 

i can never believe how much men hate women. it just keeps getting worse and worse

I’ve never heard of that. Is it new? And what is it? I have a bad suspicion… :(

no idea how new it is, as i typically avoid reddit like the plague (but i discovered this term through the link to the gendercritical subreddit) 

“A Black Knight is someone who pisses women off for entertainment.“ as opposed to a White Knight aka someone that stands up for women in order to try and get sex :/

here are some excerpts, courtesy of theredpill

on the subject of a woman walking away from you at night: “I’m just a man who decided to run an errand at night. Next time this happens jog after her. There is no law against jogging. Chase her for a while and then stop. Enjoy the fear you created. Woof woof you stupid cunt.”

on the subject of what they called “biological warfare”: “How do you exploit these two weaknesses? Start baking for the office. See how much butter and sugar you can make the little piggies eat. With sustained effort everyone will be up ten pounds in three to six months.”

“Fructose has various nasty biological effects when consumed in excess.
Main ones we are interested in are raised blood trigs, adiposity and increased appetite (outside of normal insulin fuckery, but related).“

“Try replacing the fructose with a sugar alcohol like sorbitol. For a portion of the population, it causes “gastric distress” - diarrhea and gas, mostly.”

another story that im gonna paraphrase: guy didnt like his female boss, she was stressed over a project, someone “accidentally” sent flowers to the wrong desk- to HER boss- with a note saying “the interview went great and we look forward to working with you next month!” to make it look like she was secretly searching for another job. she got fired within the week.

using the womans bathroom at starbucks, which one man described as “empowering in a red pill way” because of course most women are going to look confused if not upset… clearly beyond the red piller to imagine reasons a man might enter a womans restroom besides to go to the bathroom

some things fairly innocuous like leaving empty condom wrappers in womens restrooms and stuff…. to intentionally trying to intimidate women, getting a woman fired, etc. men harassing women in various ways, “for teh lulz” i guess. 

We could never hate men as much as they hate us.

Andrea Dworkin recommended for the women of the 21st century to harden our hearts and learn to kill. Perhaps she was right.

women who hate men want to distance ourselves from men, have our own communities, when women hate men, we want to get away from men. When men hate women they do the exact opposite, they invade our spaces, harass us, intimidate us, stalk us, are violent against us. It doesn’t matter how much women hate men, we don’t hate men the way they hate us.

^^^ the last comment is so important

That last comment really hit the nail on the head, I was just trying to articulate that exact thought earlier today.

  

just-shower-thoughts:

Can we all just take a moment to appreciate that Google is free

  

just-shower-thoughts:

Mankind has gone from tablets to scrolls and now we’re scrolling on tablets.

  

hey tumblr, got a sec?

cajunkate:

notentirely:

so, you probably had some photos or video on your dash about the flooding in louisiana. i know i didn’t realize how terrible this crisis was until i dug deeper. this is really bad. really bad.

so what i’d like to ask is, if you have an amazon prime account, please go over there right now and login. then select even just a couple of the items listed here and send them to the united way address also on that page.

please take a couple of minutes - really, just a couple - and donate some paper towels, some diapers, brooms, soap, or any of the basics. we’re talking basics. they’re needed. really needed.

thank you.

h/t to @cajunkate for the link and for helping me understand how bad this is.

THANk YOU! From everyone (really everyone!) down here in South Louisiana!

  

handsomefuckingjack:

this really effeminate lady came to my store yesterday and like….her hair and makeup were done super well and she had a casual outfit on and we talked and she said she also worked in the mall. she told me at her department store, a bunch of people come in and take shit so i was like “wheres security?” and she was like “i AM security” and pulled up her sleeves and showed me a bunch of bruises and scars and she was like “i love hand to hand combat” and i? have never fallen in love so Quick? holy shit

  

guygirder:

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rayjii:

Which type are you?

the hell is 6 i have never seen anyone do 6 before

he just ate 15 mild chicken wings and dont want sauce on his glasses whats not to get

  

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rudecanadian:

prokopetz:

While we’re on the subject of gross attitudes toward sexual assault in the tabletop roleplaying community, I’d like to briefly address a point here without derailing anybody else’s discussion.

Folks frequently react with incredulity when I remark that I know more women who’ve been driven out of the tabletop roleplaying hobby by sexual harassment and sexual assault than I do who currently participate in it, and while a big part of that is the broader atmosphere of skepticism toward women’s experiences, I think another part of it is a matter of definitions.

There are a lot of women, both in the hobby and currently out of it, who’ve had the experience of having an NPC - or, in extreme cases, another player character - sexually assault her character. For many, this is the breaking point that drove them out of the hobby in the first place.

Now, I want you to think carefully about this question: is coercing someone into roleplaying being sexually assaulted by you itself an act of sexual assault?

No, because it’s fictional. Should my girlfriend be arrested for torching an entire town? Only in the RP, where she is by and far the craziest woman I know.

The distinction you’re missing here is this: roleplaying torching a town is not, itself an act of arson, but roleplaying a graphic sex scene is, itself, a sexual act. If a dude wants you to act out a scene of sexual violence with him in the role of the aggressor, while a bunch of other guys watch, and he won’t take no for an answer… well, do the math and see what that adds up to.

(And to be clear, this isn’t some bizarre hypothetical - it happens all the time to ladies in this hobby. Just look at the notes on this very post!)

I was 17 and at my first DnD session at my local nerd shop where 40 minutes in my halfling paladin was raped by an orc. Its five years later and I’m only just starting to work myself up to playing DnD with a few friends again. Yes, I do think its an act of sexual violence.

Omg! I used to love DnD but the group I played with kept hitting on my character, do the next campaign I made a lesbian character and she got raped! I quit going after that, and the DM was furious with me and kept calling me. I have no desire to play DnD ever again; it’s too open world.

1 of my friends avoided DnD for YEARS because the first time they played, the other players raped their character & laughed about it.. They were the only non male in the room & their character was the only female character.

It sends a message to ppl who aren’t cis guys that these games aren’t for you & you can’t escape the threat of sexual violence even in fantasy spaces.

“It’s fictional” is a piss poor excuse for forcing someone to engage in your sexual fantasy when they don’t want to – or even for flirting with them in-game if they’ve made their lack of interest clear. You’re engaging with real people, even if the characters and setting aren’t real.

It may not be an arrestable crime (and is that all that matters to you?) but it can still be a traumatizing experience. And it indicates you aren’t safe to be around, if you do these things or allow them to happen.

Thank God all my groups were pretty diverse.  We had a good number of women and men and nonbinary and trans ppl in college (and my group before that was pretty small, and was close friends of mine).

I had no idea that it was like this.  Jesus.  The biggest thing I had to deal with was one of the party members had a habit of lighting me on fire 

This is why im afraid to try

Start your own group with your friends you’re comfortable with might work

The part of it that makes it terrifying and drives women away is exactly the kind of justifying men do to argue that “it’s not real!” and therefore is okay. If the first thing men can think of to do with a female character is rape her, then the women (or, more likely, woman) at the table is confronted with the very real possibility that that’s simply what those men think to do to women, period. If they all agree that this is The Thing To Do in the game, and laugh about it and make up reasons to justify it… Yeah, it’s a game, but it tells you something about the people playing it, and that’s sending a very scary message.

I was filling in as DM for a game where a dude was in arena combat against a female character and defeated her. His immediate response was “I capture her as my sex slave.” And so……“Oh, dude, she’s got a knife and is preparing to throw it, quick, roll the D20 to shoot her with your bow!” *rolls a 1* “you shoot yourself in the foot and she kills you. Start rolling up a new sheet.” urns out the regular DM had set up that scenario because the player had been bitching about how he got to do a lot of pillaging but not enough raping. I haven’t played in years because of the misogyny you find in the hobby but 100% if you can find a group of people you’re comfortable and run the game yourself it can be a lot of fun.

And yes, I think that pressuring somebody who is probably new to the hobby to roleplay the rape of their character, who is an avatar for them and probably an idealized, stronger version of themself in their head, is a form of assault and abuse. If someone in your party decides they’re going to rape another player or an npc or are standing by while an npc rapes a member of your group KILL THE OTHER MEMBERS OF YOUR PARTY (especially do this if you are a dude and your pals are planning on raping the character of a new player, especially if that new player is a woman). These aren’t people you want to play games with.